• You are allowed to grow, evolve, and change your mind.
  • You belong to yourself.
  • You have complete autonomy and authority over your life.
  • Don't ever let anyone steal your power.

These are the things I have to remind myself of daily because for a good chunk of my life, I was taught the opposite. Things like compliance and conformity were rewarded in my church community. To question or think differently was to risk exile - and yes I’m speaking from experience.

Apparently my last post ruffled some feathers. I’m sure if you knew the old me, well the new me is a hard pill to swallow - especially if you are still a part of an evangelical Christian community. I can hold space for that. But I will not waste anymore of my precious time on this earth living up to the expectations of others OR following a belief system that inflicts harm. And don’t challenge me on that - because I’ve experienced the devastation first hand. Toxic theology has taken its toll in the lives of so many people I care deeply about. 

For those of you who knew me even a year ago, I can guarantee you don’t know me now. There are a select few precious friends who’ve stuck with me through the past year and they mean the world to me. They are a witness to my reclamation. At 42, I am the happiest and steadiest I’ve ever been. 

Don’t get me wrong - it came at an incredicle cost. I couldn’t even begin to count the number of tears shed, days spent in bed, or hours spent in therapy. But I did it, I leaned into my shadow and did the hard work to heal and step into the drivers seat of my own life. And it was 100% worth the sacrifice. 

Deconstruction is hard, and I never imagined I’d end up where I did. But I had to find a spiritual path that was aligned with my most authentic self. And when I did, everything fell into place - all the things that once felt uncertain finally made sense. It is the most incredible feeling. So that is my encouragement for you today. YOU GET TO CHOOSE YOUR PATH - and you have permission to change your mind. Please don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 

Remember that we are all just mirrors for one another. If you find yourself triggered by someone’s choices it’s probably a reflection of something deeper going on within yourself. Look inside, do the work! I promise you won’t regret it!

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